"It’s too easy, you see, to get trapped in the past. The past is very seductive. People always talk about the mists of time, you know, but really it’s the present that’s in a mist, uncertain. The past is quite clear, and warm, and comforting. That’s why people often get stuck there."

Susanna Kearsley, Mariana (via larmoyante)

"We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect."

Anaïs Nin (via feellng)

photojojo:

Richard Silver is using photography to show how iconic buildings change in appearance from day to night.

Throughout the day, Silver snaps around 35 photos from the same spot, later combining them into a single composite image.

Composite Photos Show Iconic Buildings From Day to Night

via Colossal

charleskinbote:

"I will not let this terrible numbness engulf me"

charleskinbote:

"I will not let this terrible numbness engulf me"

A message from indietrillvibes


I just ended a 12 year friendship with a person who I considered to be my best friend. We had one major rift prior to this and I returned to the friendship primarily b/c of what I consider to be a "loyalty complex": an inability to give up on ppl when things are difficult b/c I don't want to be given up on. I'm not dependent on HER but I think that I've grown accustomed to having a best friend and, I'll admit, I'm feeling a void. Any advice about how to make peace with this?

lazyyogi:

Perhaps now would be a good time for you to discover a new perspective on what friendship means to you. 

The thing you are referring to as a loyalty complex sounds more like clinging than any actual form of loyalty. Your decision to mend the friendship didn’t come from a place of genuine affection, it came from the fear of someone giving up on you. 

We talk about “having” friends but this is just typical materialistic philosophy. A friend is not an object you possess and even though you know this logically when you stop to think about it, the language we use often has unconscious implications. We have a friend, we don’t have a friend, we end a friendship, and so on. 

All of this completely ignores the central element of friendship: relating. A friend is a way of relating to someone both with love and acceptance. You appreciate and allow. But when we start considering a friend something we have, we stop relating from the heart. We no longer engage in friendship as a verb but rather as a noun. 

It’s like the way the romance can go out of a budding relationship when a label is placed on it. Sometimes we start relying on the label and stop living it. 

I am often reminded of a quote from the Dalai Lama: "Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend or a meaningful day."

Now is a useful time for you to reflect on how you can bring the focus back to relating to others with sincerity and openness. It isn’t easy and it isn’t an achievement in the sense of one day you will say, “Ah! Now I am sincere and open.” Nope. Every day you must be willing to start from the beginning and open up. 

Sitting meditation and tonglen are two very useful practices. Sitting meditation will help you to find steadiness and balance within your mind and emotions, while tonglen will help you to meet unpleasant, terrifying, awful, and awkward experiences with kindness and compassion. 

Also, I highly recommend the book The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. It will provide some much needed guidance along the way. 

Namaste sis :) Much love

"We assume others show love the same way we do — and if they don’t, we worry it’s not there."

Everyone has their own love language. That’s one of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned. (via stay-ocean-minded)

"I just wanna go on more adventures. Be around good energy. Connect with people. Learn new things. Grow."

Kid Cudi (via slayr)

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And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times.

Intense shit.

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loveandddrevenge:

Wow yes

"I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations."

Unknown (via homolatte)